Every event that happens in life; no matter how happy or how sad the situation is, I take my time to write them in my journal. One fine morning, as I was going through this priceless journal of mine, something caught my attention and decided to share with all.
People do crazy things when they are in love. Have you heard of that? As a teenager, falling in love is a part of process in life that you simply cannot miss. It is sometimes scary - if you've seen a person in love, you'll know what I mean. You might even laugh at how ridiculous some of these people are. During my younger times, it was writing long, mushy letters by hand. But now it's SMSing till your very last cent, chatting or writing long, mushy emails, spending more than three hours on the phone, giggling, purring and saying all sorts of sweet nothings.
As you leave your childhood and transformed into this "teenager", you are just beginning to experience this wonderful and challenging thing called "a relationship". Your first crush, the first time you fell in love and what it means to care for someone else in this way. It is our experience that nothing is more wonderful or more difficult than a relationship. Nothing brings as much joy or as much pain. That is just the way it is.
But it's exactly these crazy things that honour the one you love. People become convinced that you really do love them when they find out you're willing to do even the things you dislike for them. People you love are honoured when they find out that you are willing to look like a fool to let them know you love them. And the truth is, no matter how many people make fun of how foolish you look, when you're in love, you feel better than anyone else in the whole world. Have you heard, the road to true love never runs smooth! Are you ready to take up the challenge?
Love is truly a very complicated word, even for the experts to understand. It comes in various forms and sizes. When two people come together in a relationship, they think that after that, life would be perfect because they've got each other and no one in the world can separate them. Please don't get me wrong; my respected readers, that I am not discouraging you to love but if you love somebody, then why are they tears and harsh words?
Being in a relationship is not as easy as it looks. Two individuals may have common interests and that's what brought them together. The electric waves or the chemistry that binds them, or however you would like to call it. But no matter what similarities your girlfriend or your boyfriend and yourself share. And because of these differences that causes disagreements between the two lovers.
Not too long ago, I spent one of my evenings chit-chatting with my closest friend. Typical girls' talk - gossip and guys. I wouldn't call myself an expert in love , but I am a good listener. I asked her, "So how are you and your Prince Charming?". She answered, "We're doing good. The occasional arguments. The last time we argued about was which CD to listen in the car."
Then we exploded into a burst of laughter. See, silly little things can actually cause an uproar. Most couples have misunderstandings. Due to that break-ups happen. But there is a way to change that situation, that is to talk things out. Even if it's years later, things can change after reconciliation.
A friend of mine just recently married her childhood friend. Although they never saw each other for about 20 years, but love found a way for them to be together. Not too long ago, a talk with my mentor has made me remember this for the rest of my life, "You have a lifetime, what's the rush? Things don't happen in a snap of a finger!"
Getting to know someone, especially the one whom you share a "relationship" with, understanding them is the challenge that you must learn to overcome. Even if it means to climb the highest mountain, walk for miles and swim the seven seas. If you really love him/her, you must be willing to trust them and trust yourself as well.
Love, though with its hurt and pain - endless streams of tears, harsh words spoken, regular fights and occasional arguments, it is without a doubt, love is still the greatest of all. Love is when you gave the broadest and sincerest smile when you see your special someone. Love is when you gave the most huggable bear hug to that special someone. Love is being there for someone when there are in need. Love is when you know that both your hearts and souls are connected in a special way.
Love is not a feeling, it is a choice. Love to me is something wonderful. Love between two or more people, I think, must be the greatest gift given to us all. In order to be loved and to be able to love someone, we should start by loving ourselves.
By Phoebe Debbie Ang, Via: Borneo Bulletin Online
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